Recently the 50 shades of Grey movie was released and it filled my entire facebook with a vast majority of all females that I’m friends with on there checking in to watch 50 shades of Grey at various cinemas. The entire phenomenon confused me as various girls were literally creaming their panties over Mr Grey, having read the books. I too read the books in order to form an opinion on them. A woman was actually arrested for masturbating in the cinema over it. It got me re-reading my reviews which I wrote up and I still feel like I read an entirely different book.
I mean to me 50 shades of Grey isn’t a work of erotic fiction, it’s a horribly written love story which features a possessive abusive, controlling man and a girl who makes no sense whatever as she continues to complain about all these traits when she could have just stayed out of his life when she first broke up with him. It baffles me that women would want a Christian Grey despite the fact he is a stalker, controlling, possessive and any woman he has sex with is because he wants to beat her and fuck her because she looks like his dead drug addict mother. If women really want a Christian Grey they could try searching local prisons. I’m sure they’d find someone similar minus the billionaire part probably. That or they could engage in making terrible dating decisions by dating a guy who tracks you to bars takes you back to a random hotel room and takes various of items of clothing off of you whilst you’re defenceless and incapable of making decisions for yourself. That sounds like an amazing plan. Where do I sign up for a guy who wants to have sex with me because I remind him of his dead mother? Mr Grey will see you now, more like Mr Grey can fuck off.
I’m at a loss that people actually like the idea of having their own Mr Grey. The idea he aspires arousal in anyone completely confuses me. Mainly because of the having sex with women who resemble his dead mother which was revealed in 50 shades Darker. I’m curious why women would spend money filling E.L James’ bank account when she wrote one of the worst relationships ever. This is the type of relationship which your best friends should urge you to end. It’s the relationship which should end in a court room with a restraining order. Women search for happily ever afters holding onto an ideal like this and I doubt it’s going to end well. The fact books like this are popular warps the ideals of impressionable naïve women like Ana was in the actual book.
Earlier on today a recommended link on facebook recommended a book which is also erotic fiction (termed dark romance) with a plot where a girl under 18 meets a guy in a bar, he stalks her to her graduation, assaults a guy she is on a date with and then drugs her, kidnaps her and takes her to some secluded island and then they have BDSM sex which means she loses her virginity in, which some reviews of the book compare to rape. It sounds more like a psychological thriller/ crime plot than an arousing situation to be in. What with him telling her she’s his after drugging and kidnapping her, and taking her to an island she can’t escape from. This kind of fiction shouldn’t have a place in popular culture. Writing books where being kidnapped and drugged is erotic because a guy is “beautiful” and “misunderstood” is just something that shouldn’t be part of popular culture. It’s something that has no place being romanticized in my opinion.
Since 50 shades of grey books like this have become increasingly popular and advertised considerably more than they used to be. After the popularity of 50 shades of Grey various other works of erotic fiction made up displays in book shops, advertising that if you like 50 shades of Grey that you’ll also enjoy these books. Controlling, obsessive, fucked up men have replaced the prince charming types and the sacrificial love of Romeo. And whilst to me Romeo and Juliet is a horrible love story and Prince Charming seems unrealistic, they seem like the lesser of two evils to fill women’s heads with, in comparison to the romanticism of controlling, abusive men stalking young virgins. In my opinion stories with this plot belong in the crime genre not dark romance or erotic fiction or whatever you want to term these books as and I can only hope that if a film adaptation of 50 shades darker comes out, that the reason Mr Grey beats and has sex with women puts people off 50 shades, and all other books that make these types of relationships seem romantic.